Hello fellas! Today I am coming live from my living room with some knowledge to bestow upon you all. Some of you have a few ladies on your team that you, well I won’t say the word “use” per se, but you definitely aren’t giving as much as she’s giving. Perhaps she’s not your only one, but you value her as your star player. You may have no intentions of being with her right now, or maybe you just aren’t at a place where you want to commit. Whatever the case, the current situation is that she’s really into you, and you just like all the perks that come with her adoration. Unfortunately, for some women that is not a forever thing. I have had some of my male friends confide in me about a woman who fit the ‘star player’ criteria and all of a sudden she just disappeared. No, she didn’t disappear my friend, there were plenty of signs that she was over you, but you happened to ignore those signs. You had hoped you’re your slinging of long d*ck and carrot dangling words was all that was needed to keep her. Well, let me share with you a few of those signs, of when your star player has decided to move on with their life.
The decline in acts of thoughtfulness- Perhaps she used to hit you up so that you could come over for dinner that she would cook for you. Maybe there was a sale at the Gap and she would pick you up a few desperately needed items. Maybe that NBA 2k15 came out and she felt that you needed it! (My girl!) Now, you don’t get anything. She barely provides you a cup of water when you stop by her place. (Not good)
The decline in going ham- Sometimes women put themselves in stupid situations where they are with a man who really doesn’t want to pursue her for something more substantial and she tells herself that she’s okay with that and will wait. However, she goes off on him when he posts pics of other chicks on his Facebook page OR when he forgets their prior plans to hang out. She does this, because she’s really not okay with the situation and she wants more. (Stupid) However, as time goes on, going ham is less of an occurrence. She no longer gets upset over these things and when you legitimately screw her over, she ultimately tells you “don’t worry about it.” (You are in trouble)
The decline in s*x- There was a time when all you had to do was send one text and she was breaking her neck to get to your place. She came over smelling good, in her sexy lingerie and rocked your world! Now when she comes over, she just wants to talk. (Whhhhhy??) When you finally put the moves on her to remind her what this situation is really about (you know the same ones you’ve always done) she gives you the Heisman. The amount of freakiness will also decline. Perhaps in the beginning she was blowing your mind with new and exciting things, now it’s “okay, hurry up, I gotta go some place”.
The decline in attractiveness- Finally, after realizing truly and fully that you aren’t going to commit to her, she decides to put you in the friendzone. That means sharing with you her stories about her being with other guys. (i.e Doing the amazing things she did with you to other guys, while you just listen and are miserable about this situation.) I mean what do you expect? You did say you weren’t looking for a relationship, just friends.
The decline in relationship talk- In the beginning you gave her the “I’m not looking for a relationship” speech and this may have had to be a conversation held every so many weeks. Now you are starting to realize that she hasn’t asked about that in a while. In fact, you haven’t seen her in a grip. This leads me to….
The decline in hanging out- She doesn’t have time for you anymore. She’s busy with work, projects, and other things that used to not be a real problem. Before you were playing her to be with other people or do other things. Now, you are waiting for her to call you back. Now, you are waiting for her to make time so you can kick it. Things don’t seem to be going too well and then the worse thing happens…
The decline in communication- Remember when she would blow up your phone with texts? Maybe she would send you “Good Morning” texts or send stupid memes. It was a bother and you may have often ignored the texts or gave a flimsy ‘LOL’. Now you find yourself missing these texts. You start to realize I ain’t hear from such and such in a while” that’s about the time guys send the “Hey Stranger” text. That’s the “hey why haven’t you been on my jock” text. She’ll respond that she’s been busy, which is slightly true, but mainly she’s too busy for you. You find yourself trying to have conversations with her, but she’s giving you one liners. (Him: So what do you think about abortion? I think that it’s a travesty and shouldn’t happen, what about you? Her: Yeah, me too.)
I didn’t share this with the intentions of helping you keep these ladies in the holding pattern that they are in. You had her for a period, you didn’t want her, and now you lost her. I just want you to be aware of the signs!